The Blame Game

An incident that occurred today prompted me to think about how, when and why people blame others for things that they are responsible for.

In my opinion, the most common reason why most people blame others is, to cover up their mistakes. Such people are afraid of the consequences of the mistakes but not careful enough to avoid them in the first place. I understand that sometimes mistakes do happen. In that case, according to me, the right thing to do would be to own up, apologise and make amends.

Some people blame other people or events for things because that makes it easy to feel good about oneself. Sometimes it is useful in gathering sympathy.

I feel that cowards blame others. The people who can’t take the responsibility for their actions or those who don’t have the courage to face, fight if required and overcome adverse consequences blame others.

The first time you make the choice of dealing with the consequences is the most difficult one. After that it gradually gets easier till some day it becomes a way of life. One learns that the goal is to get the job done and hence if one commits a mistake, one quickly acts to repair it and get the job done, rather than fretting over it or blaming other people or situations for it. Also, I believe that one learns so much in the process that one goes on to make fewer mistakes…one becomes proactive towards work and more responsible in general.

One becomes a fair and honest human being…one with integrity. This, for me, equates to being a better human being and thus the most important thing of all. :)